Quentin Massys
Envy isn’t a sexy topic to talk about, but the truth is that every human being experiences envy at some point in their lives.
No matter how successful you are, there’ll always be moments where you feel that pang in the pit of your stomach. It’s part of being human, but it’s not always comfortable, right? However, there are easy steps you can take that’ll help you to make peace with your jealously and live a life full of pure generosity and love.
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Acknowledge your feelings.
There’s no point in denying how you feel. Let yourself feel the emotions.
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Dig deep.
What exactly is it that makes you feel jealous? Is it the fame? The body? The house? The money? The friends? The connections? Try to go from the pervasive feeling of jealousy to finding out what exactly is making you feel that pang in your stomach. The more detailed you can get the better.
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Determine whether you’ll really want to go after that thing you’re so jealous about.
For example, if you want that body, are you willing to give up eating pie? If you want that money, do you really want to climb the career ladder and give up time with friends and loved ones? Be true to yourself and brutally honest here.
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Make gratitude your attitude.
Set yourself a challenge of writing down ten blessings every day for the next week or so. You’ll be surprised how full and rich your life already is. Realize that the world is full of abundance and there’s room for all of us to have what we want. Just because someone has that thing you yearn for, doesn’t mean you can’t get it. Quite to the contrary! If someone has what you want, it just shows you what’s possible and what you can achieve too! However, it all starts with being grateful for what you already have!
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Seek a conversation.
As a teenager I was super jealous of a friend who was tall and a beautiful dancer. She was in my grade and so one day, I shared with her how I felt. Her answer? I wish I was as good in school as you are! How in the world do you have such good grades? She made me see that I have value too and that there are things about her that aren’t perfect. Talking about it can really help both parties involved. Yes, it will make you feel vulnerable, but in vulnerability comes change, right?
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Meditate on it.
I have a beautiful meditation track for you that you can download over at annesophie.us/meditate. It’s free and it takes only a few minutes. Go over there and download it. It’ll help a lot.
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Be the giver.
If you can, give to the person you feel envious of. Help her out in any way possible. Make her life easier and make her feel appreciated and loved by you. This will stretch and train your generosity muscle and it’ll help you to really start believing in the law of abundance that rules this world.
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This is valuable information and I love the accompanying meditation – it can be so helpful to have someone guide us through the tough emotions.
I agree. I love guided meditations and use them every morning. It’s amazing how transformative they can be if you let loose and just go with it. It’s definitely a great way to bust through many issues. xxx
I agree with you. I love guided meditations and use them every day. They can really provide some major healing and help you bust through blockages in your mind and heart. xxx
You’re so right Anne-Sophie envy isn’t sexy at all. And you have some great steps here, but my all time favourite is #7. That is sheer brilliance. Tip of the hat and kudos to you.
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Elle
Thanks, Elle. Yes, I loooove doing #7 as it’s what we humans should be all about, right? The more we give the better and there’s a lot of healing in that.
Digging deep and acknowledging work well here as they do in most areas of Life … nicely pointed out, Anne-Sophie … Jealously lurks … and reveals itself when there is some sort of “lack” in certain aspects of your Life.
Be good to yourself
David
Life Coach. Listener. Solution Finder.
Jealousy can be a great way of figuring out what it is you actually want in life, isn’t it? The more you investigate, the more you’ll understand yourself and your wants and needs.
This is great! I love all 7 steps but I think that #2 is the hardest but also the most beneficial. I think I will be adding this post to my gratitude list. 🙂
I agree, #2 is hard, but like you said, it’s the most helpful and will reveal a lot of who you are and what your values are etc. I’m honored you liked this post and so grateful you stopped by to comment! 🙂
Anne-Sophie – Thanks for writing about a subject that needs to be talked about more. I used to be embarrassed about feeling envious but today view it as a gift. It allows me to see what I feel is lacking from my life and think I want. Once I see it in action, I then have the opportunity to wrap my arms around it, do some work, and as you suggest meditate. Fran
Love that reframing of it, Fran. Yes, envy can teach us a lot and if we embrace it lovingly, it totally works for us and helps us grow.