Today, I have a little message for you.
All I want to say to you is that
You are safe.
All I wish for your heart to understand is that
You are perfectly safe.
All I want to whisper in your ear is
You are majestically safe.
You deserve to realize is that
You are inherently safe.
Because you, my love, are safe.
Simply. Non-negotiably.
And even more than that, it is safe too. Yes, it is.
It is safe to eat.
It is safe to gain 20 pounds.
It is safe to lose 10 pounds.*
It is safe to enjoy a croissant, or two or three.
It is safe to drink a green smoothie and go for a long run.
It is safe to overeat at times.
It is safe to show your bare arms.
It is safe to highlight your lips.
It is safe to be bigger than your mom.
It is safe to be the thinnest in the room.*
It is safe to have a big nose.
It is safe to have a sharp mind.
It is safe to stop dieting and start living life.
It is safe to feel anger, happiness, resentment and shame.
It is safe to cry, let go and laugh until you can’t breath no more.
It is safe to be rejected.
It is safe to be accepted and to receive.
It is safe to be successful and to follow your dreams.
It is safe to be yourself, feel yourself, heal yourself.
It is safe because you are safe.
You are safe no matter what she says.
You are safe no matter what he thinks.
You are safe no matter how they react.
You are safe no matter who looks at your plate, glances at your butt or frowns at your hair.
You are safe.
You are safe because your self-worth is inviolable – no matter what you eat, how you look or who you are.
You are safe because you’re more than a body, so damn more than a shell.
You are safe because the size of your jeans doesn’t determine the size of your heart.
You are safe because the fries on your plate aren’t more powerful than the longings of your soul.
You are safe because the scars on your skin and the pain in your chest will fade away.
You are safe because you’re still here, still going, still breathing.
You are safe because you are not too pretty or too ugly.
You are safe because you are more than your name, more than anything.
You are safe and you are loved.
You are safe.
You are safe.
You are safe.
*obviously, this only applies if your eating habits and mental state are healthy and aligned. Otherwise, please seek medical help.
Anne- you are so right. you know how I feel whole heartedly. Safe is good. there is nothing wrong with safe. we all want to be safe…. we crave it, long for it. we seek it out in every thing that we do. sometimes we think we find it in habits that we have which are bad… but safe is anything but what they are. an illusion is a better word. Safe is exactly what we need. and where we should get to.
I agree that with the couple of those you have marked…. obviously if someone is still struggling badly, they should be under care of a professional. but there is no reason why EVERYONE can’t have they rest of them.
Some seem challenging a bit….maybe for some more than others. Like being bigger than your mom… moms are supposed to be bigger than their daughters. That just seems like the natural order of things. Or at least I always thought it was. Now of course I am beginning to understand the menopause thing and how it makes older women thinner, more frail. although it didn’t stop me from becoming jealous. not to mention she smoked like a crazy person. i am sure that added to things. but still. my messed up brain twisted it around. Now, mind you- i was adopted… but even still… i look at her, i can wear smaller pants because i have slimmer hips. she has a completely flat chest ( literally)… i wear a small b cup. so my tops are a bit bigger, but i still wear small tops. and i have started to not let that bother me. i am me she is her. i have my body, and i like my body better now. i am okay where i am now…. where i wasn’t before…… and for me, THAT IS HUGE. and she has stopped doing what she used to do that triggered me. that is huge for her. so we have come strides. together and apart. I AM OKAY NOW>>> so thank you anne for posting this…. i love it. and i love you!!! i am going to give this to my therapist to put in her office for others to read. i am sure it will help others too!
Isn’t it interesting how this one sentence can trigger such a huge load of conflicting emotions? I knew when I put it in that this was a tricky sentence. I too struggle with that, but to my core, I believe that we are all our own person with our unique bodies, so why would it be a bad thing to be bigger than your mom? We’re all built differently, but I know that this causes a lot of emotional distress for a lot of people I know and love. Maybe this will be the mantra for some? I think it’d be a life-changer. 🙂
A beautiful and inspiring piece of writing.
Thanks, love.
Great piece of writing. I feel safe when I’m certain people and nothing beats it.
Yes, people can have a great effect on your overall feelings and the ease you experience. Glad you have those people in your life, Aimee. Thanks for stopping by to comment.
Thanks for posting this Anne-Sophie, I love the message and it will keep me safe tomorrow when I go back to work after a period of absence since I broke my leg. I have struggled with not being able to exercise and continue in my efforts to gain weight but reading things like this helps me remember I am following the right path to freedom. Much love, Georgie xxxxxxx PS Did you try Ben’s cookies in London? They are the chewiest, yummiest cookies by far! xxx
Hey Georgie, wow, that sounds like a big day tomorrow. I’ll definitely keep you in my thoughts and send you tons of positive vibes. I didn’t try Ben’s cookies (didn’t even know about them until now), but I take your word for it and will definitely try them next time. Good luck tomorrow. xxx
Thanks! : )))
You are so welcome. 🙂