Just because something was true back in the day doesn’t mean it’s true now.
Just because you once felt sad and alone doesn’t mean you have to hold on to those feelings forever
and ever.
Just because you were once betrayed doesn’t mean that’ll be the story of your life.
Just because you felt lost before doesn’t mean you’ll always feel that way.
Just because you have a picture of yourself doesn’t mean it’s the true you.
Pictures change.
People change.
Stories evolve in a myriad of ways.
Our need to hold on to what was derived from our biggest fears, the most glorious dreams, and insecurities.
We believe that by staying safe, we can protect ourselves from what is and will be
when this way of living keeps us from being who we are and want to be.
Life is uncertain in its essence.
It ebbs and flows.
Pulls you in and pushes you out.
By compulsively holding on to what was, what once made you feel a certain way, you deny yourself the experience of true joy, true wonder, true awe.
It’s in the moment of surrender that the magic happens.
It’s in the moment of giving in that peace begins.
It’s in the moment of letting go where your life really starts.
Of course, it’s easier to hold on to the past.
Of course, it feels safer-
even if your past was anything but safe.
It’s what you know.
What you’ve always known.
It’s where your perception of yourself was born.
Where you began to create a tale of your core,
your gifts
your supposed shortcomings.
It’s the platform you’re building your life upon.
And how is that working out for you?
Just because you once thought it was true, doesn’t make it true here and now.
The body you had yesterday is not the body you have today.
The body you had when you were born is completely different from the body of your toddler phase.
The body you’ll have in 3 weeks will be different from the one you’re living in at this very moment.
Our platforms, our base, and our beliefs about what is true,
about who we are
is just an illusion.
It’s not real.
We are more than what we see.
We are so much more than what is going on in our minds.
We are not our stories, our past, our experiences.
So, I’m asking you, who are you?
If you were to let go of the narrative that’s been written over the past decades, who would you be?
If you were to let go of words to describe your features, who’d you be?
If you were to dive into wordlessness and emerge in pure feelings, how’d that feel?
And how would you allow it to evolve over the moments, the hours, the days, and years?
Years ago, I had a powerful revelation in a coaching session.
We did a deep dive into my psyche, and I acknowledged the truth that I was still holding on to the snake that was my victim story. I received a clear picture of that snake frantically moving, breathless, but not going anywhere. The snake, my victim mentality, was there to protect me, to keep me in the past, and to provide a sanctuary for me when I needed it.
The thing is, I didn’t need it anymore. I just thought I did.
In fact, that bright green, wiggling snake was holding me imprisoned in many ways, keeping me from moving into the present moment.
It was up to me to let her go, release this part of me that still kept coming up, attacking me, reminding me that I liked being in the Poor Me space for quite some time because, at that point, it kept me alive.
That is an essential truth: many of the things we did in the past, the experiences we now wish away, served a purpose. They kept us going, they kept us sane, and they did whatever we needed in that place in time.
But now, we’re in a different place.
And we can release, shed our skin and grow into beautiful new beings that are living in the light.
Just because my snake was my best friend when I was 15 years old doesn’t mean I needed to keep her around for decades to come.
The moment I made that realization, my internal map of who I was, shifted, allowing me to change the course of my life.
What’s your snake?
How are you calling her back over and over again?
And how are you going to release her with love?
