For most of my life – and even now to a degree – I was committed to suffering.
I thought it was noble to suffer.
I thought it was the only way to live your life.
I thought that this is just how things were.
Life is a battle.
It’s always a fight.
You fight for good grades.
You fight to understand formulas in math.
You fight for love.
You fight for acceptance.
You fight for the perfect weight.
You fight the scale.
You fight food.
Life is a constant struggle.
A journey that sucks and then you die…
And so I suffered.
Every day.
I dreaded.
Every day.
I feared.
Everything.
Mostly my body.
Mostly food.
Mostly my brother.
Teachers.
Well, mostly, everything that could ever happen.
I suffered because I saw everyone around me suffering too.
Everyone was miserable and so it was just the way it was, right?
That’s why I didn’t heal sooner.
That’s why I didn’t even see a light sooner.
That’s why it never occurred to me that there could be another way.
That suffering might not be the core of life.
That suffering might just be a choice I was making every single day.
A choice that reflected the beliefs I was holding onto so very much.
A choice that reflected the way I saw the world.
Had been taught to see the world.
And then I read a book,
and then I moved away from home,
and then I found an online community,
and then I began to see that suffering is not a given.
That life can be fun.
That human relationships can be based on joy and love.
That work, careers, making money can be a source of delight.
That weight, food, your body image could bring you peace and well-being.
That life didn’t have to be miserable.
I see this so much in my clients: the choice of suffering, the commitment to being in pain, the desire (almost) to stay in struggle, to keep the boxing gloves on and to always be ready for the next major battle.
I see it every day and despite it seeming hopeless, this wall to a life of joy and bliss can be removed.
Sure, the commitment to suffering is a majorly ingrained behavior, belief, habit, lifestyle that most of us women have inherited over the centuries.
Sure, it’s a commitment that we are often unwilling to give up. After all, the commitment to suffering is so noble – all women are committed to it, so who are you to break those rules?
Well, the question you have to ask yourself is this: do you want to heal or do you want to stay stuck?
Do you want a life of freedom and self-realization or do you want to live the miserable life of the woman you’re basing your choices on?
Do you want out or do you want to stay in?
As always, it’s a choice that you have to make.
Nobody can make it for you.
Nobody can heal your mind.
But you.
And while the journey to self-love and body-respect might be paved with roadblocks and pain, the level of pain you’re experiencing right now will never fade if you don’t take action.
Oh and I get it.
You’re not really in pain now, are you?
You’re so numb that you don’t even feel the suffering anymore.
You’re so used to fighting that the fight is not even the hardest part of your life anymore -because all of your life is a struggle.
It just is.
But imagine if this weight was lifted off your shoulders.
Imagine if you didn’t have to fight.
Imagine the relief washing over you if you were committed to bliss instead of suffering, if you were to give yourself what you needed instead of always giving everyone else what they wanted.
If you allowed yourself to live your life from your heart instead of from your fears.
Imagine if you weren’t committed to suffering and pain, what would change?
Who would you be?
How would you walk, talk and breathe?
So, what will it take for you to let go of the need to suffer and be in pain?
What will it take for you to put the boxing gloves down and surrender to a live where your body isn’t your biggest enemy, where food isn’t a source of shame and guilt, where you have the career you love and the partner who cherishes you?
What will it take for you to actually honor your life?
For me, it was the realization that I didn’t need to be my mom.
I could choose my own lifestyle.
I could make my own decisions.
I could follow my heart and not hers.
It was the realization that I was allowed to grow up and that I didn’t owe my parents my life.
They had given me a lot and I am beyond grateful for everything I received, but that doesn’t mean I’ll forever be in their debt.
I am allowed to be an adult.
I am allowed to stand on my own two feet.
I am allowed to live a life that is closer to my desires than theirs.
I don’t have to struggle and suffer like they did.
This realization was major and took me almost 3 decades to fully “get”.
But the moment I did, I could feel that my life was about to transform in ways I couldn’t have ever imagined.
It was the moment I knew I would finally life MY life – not theirs.
What do you have to realize in order to shed the weight of fear, pain, hurt, terror and regret?
Who do you have to forgive?
What will you have to do differently?
How will you have to change in order to move into a direction of happiness that will wrap itself around your life?
Are you committed to suffering?
Are you willing to re-committed to joy?
As always, I’m here to support you in letting go of suffering and building the life you have always wanted to life: a life without body-shame, without obsessing about every calorie you put into your body, a life of joy, freedom and bold magnificence.
I have an exciting opportunity to work with me 1:1, in the same room for 2 days!
Know that it’s time for major shifts in your life and relationship with food and yourself? Are you ready to commit so deeply to self-love, well-being and a body image based on respect that you can finally go out and claim your perfect life? Then this 2 day VIP experience is just the next step for you.
You don’t have to how to “get” to body-love and freedom from bingeing and overeating. All you need to know is that you *want* a better life, a more relaxed and joyful daily experience. All you need to know is that you want to change the direction of your future. I’ll take care of the rest.
Is a life of body-love calling you? Send me an email (anne-sophie@annesophie.us) to receive the details.
I only have 3 spaces available and they will sell out.
Ready? Let’s let go of suffering and dive into bliss.
Ananda Hum! <3
