My pregnancy is starting to become real and I’m beginning to have those moments where I feel like I really want to share this magic with a loved one.
As a single mom-to-be, there certainly is an element of melancholy silently simmering in the background.
Will I be enough?
Will I be able to provide for the child?
Will the child miss her/his father?
Will I be able to cope?
At the same time, there are thoughts like: I wish I had partner giving me a massage right now, spoiling me every now and then, picking up ice-cream in the middle of the night or simply caressing my growing baby bump.
But alas, sometimes life is not as you want it to be, right? And since I’ve been done playing the victim of life’s circumstances a long, long time ago, I put my thinking hat on and got proactive.
I do want to have a magical pregnancy. I do want to cherish every moment, experience this special time with all my senses and be happy with the life I have.
So, how can you have a magical pregnancy even when you’re single?
Here’s how:
Create a network of support
The magical moments will still be magical if you share them with your closest friends and family.
So, be truly mindful of who you want to be around at this time and then spend time with these people.
Give yourself lots of time to dream
One of the best things about being pregnant is the time you get to dream. You get to dream of a whole new life – a life you can co-create for and with another human being.
How do you want your life with the little one to be like? How can you create an extra special bond between the two of you?
Indulge in these thoughts as often as you want.
Schedule in lots of “Me” time
Being a single mom-to-be comes with all kinds of worries (especially financial worries if you ask me). That’s why it’s so important to schedule tons of “me” time into your calendar. Be kind to yourself and give yourself the time and space you need in order to come to terms with this situation and be at peace – for your little one too.
Keep a journal
One of the best ways to get honest with yourself and release all your emotions is to journal. Write down everything you thing, without editing and feel how you heal.
I want to hear from you: are you a single mom-to-be? How do you make your pregnancy special and unforgettable? Let us know.
Love & Light,
Anne-Sophie
I am not a mom nor a mom-to-be but I am so glad to hear how you are embracing this experience in beautiful ways. Your little one will grow up feeling loved and whole and completely wanted and there is no greater gift than that 🙂
Thank you. I hope you’re right. 🙂
oh annie… I was a mommie to be three times, a mom twice… granted, I had a hubby by my side. But that doesn’t always make things easier!!! and I didn’t get massages and pampered like I would have loved to be either. And during labor, with my daughter, he left to get a drink when I needed him with me…. Things are what we make them. And as you found out with your marriage…. sometimes things work out with two, and sometimes, they don’t. And same with parents.. sometimes kids are better off with just one parent vs two. Sure ideally two could be better… but who is to say for sure? the people who write the books? some people who write those books don’t even have kids… and some people who write books on marriage, have never been married!! You do what your heart tells you… all that is required is that you love your child. They will love you unconditionally ( at least until they hit middle school, LOL) they don’t expect much, and they only want your love and hugs… you are a smart woman with so much love and wisdom to pass onto your child…there is no way that you are not enough for him/her. Be confident in yourself annie. you will be just fine. I know you will. 🙂 no matter where your life has led you, what you have gone through, you have managed to come out on top… done just fine, this is no exception.
Thank you so much, Karen. You are my shining start and you are so so so right: who is to say what is “normal”, “right” and “good”? We are all individuals with different experiences of and in life.
And as women, we are oh so strong. xxx