There’s this thing women do. A thing I call living a “used to have body” life.
A “used to have body” life is a life that is completely filled with the sadness and regret of having had a “better” body, a smaller body, a prettier body.
It’s a life filled with moments of looking in the mirror expecting to see the body that “used to be”, the body they “used to have” and then being shocked – over and over and over again – at how different their body looks now.
It’s a life that’s lived in the past.
A life that’s based on the myth that what they used to have was better than what is right now.
It’s a life that is, at best, numb and, at worst, not lived.
When you live a “used to have body” life, you hang on to the idea that your body is a paperdoll, a thing that you can simply shape and form and exchange the parts that don’t fit into your ideal.
When you live this “used to have body” life, you do your body major injustice as your body is more than something to be looked at, something to be judged.
YOU are more than something to be looked at, than something to be judged ruthlessly – day in and day out.
And yet you live in this reality.
You look in the mirror wishing, hoping, dreaming of seeing what used to be, only to be met by what is now.
You see the fat, the loose skin, the cellulite, the wrinkles and anything else you deem ugly, depressing, shameful and WRONG.
You look in the mirror and you see someone you don’t want to be.
Someone you cannot accept.
Someone that takes up too much space.
Someone that isn’t supposed to be this way.
Someone that has failed.
And oh how I wish I could guide you to open your eyes (and I can – when you work with me!) and see what this body, the body you have NOW has to offer.
The body that you have NOW has a story. It had a life. It grew and transformed and shifted and changed.
The body you have NOW is enabling you to LIVE, to be HERE, to experience the beauty and sadness of this world.
The body you have NOW may not be the body you used to have but it’s a body that is worthwhile, a body that is worth cherishing, a body that is worth LOVING.
The body you have NOW is the body is yours – just as the “one you used to have” was.
Now simply a different time. You’ve evolved and so has your body.
Bodies naturally – if we can refrain from messing with them in all the ways we do – gain weight throughout our lifetime.
Let me say this again:
We as human beings gain weight as we get older. Naturally.
There’s no shame, no fault, no failure in that. It just is what it is.
Even though most people consume less calories as they get older, we still gain weight. Because that is what bodies do.
I know, I know, this doesn’t help, does it?
You STILL want a smaller body. You still want that body back that you used to have when you were 20 years old. The weight you kept rather effortlessly or maybe not.
You want it so bad – your happiness, your joy depends on it.
Does it, though?
Does it really?
Or is this just a believe that you’ve bought into, a slice of our society’s ‘norm’ that you’ve never investigated?
Is it maybe even more? Your fear of growing old? Your desperate attempt at holding onto a life that could’ve been, might’ve been, should’ve been?
Is it your desire to hide the pain that you really harbor inside but don’t ever want to acknowledge because it would be too much to take?
Or is it “just” your favorite past time, that constant beating up of your body, of yourself?
Whatever it is – really, whatever it is, it doesn’t have to be this way. You do not have to use dieting/changing your body as a strategy to fix your life, to keep your pain removed.
You can step into the discomfort and let go of the comfortable pain you know.
Living a “used to have body” life is not the life you’ve been dreaming of, it’s not a life you’ve ever wished for yourself, so what are you waiting for in order to claim that “have a body, my body, this body” life?!
I may have a guess…
Let’s talk about it and make sure you don’t miss the one life you were giving dreaming of a different, a better, a thinner body.
Ready? Schedule your call now.
Let’s do this! <3
