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The Morality of Food
One thing I hear over and over and over again is “I’ve been good this week" or "I’ve binged on bad foods and feel disgusted with myself.” This drives me nuts as there are neither good nor bad foods. A piece of pie doesn’t suddenly grow devil horns and tell you what a...
Are YOU seeing YOURSELF?
There's an episode of Buffy where a group of men comes to town and takes away everyone's voices. They rip out people's hearts and although they scream at the top of their longs, nobody can hear them, because, well, they don't make a sound. That's how I felt l growing...
It’s OK
It's OK to choose you. It's OK to feel. It's OK to let go. It's OK to break up. It's OK to hang on. It's OK to eat. It's OK to be you. It's OK to have arguments. It's OK to stop. It's OK to give up. It's OK to start over. It's OK to cry. It's OK to laugh. It's OK to...
What’s your body religion?
All of us carry around certain beliefs about our body. Most of them are: I need to be thin to be loved. A bigger body is an unhealthy body. I need to be slender to be beautiful. I'm ugly because I have fat. If I stop dieting, my body will explode. My body betrays...
If food is not the problem, what is?
You’ve probably heard me say it before: food is not the problem when it comes to overeating, bingeing, or dieting. And it’s true. Food itself is not the issue. So, if food is not the problem, what is the real issue? And how can you address it to break free from...
That last day before starting a new diet…
It’s a special day, isn’t it? A day filled with fear and excitement. A day filled with eating everything you won’t be able to eat for months – until you’re so full you can hardly breathe. A day promising a new body, a new look, a new life. A day full of anxiety...
My Top Ten of 2017
Here it is. Day 365 of 2017. Another year comes to an end. 365 sunrises. 365 joyous moments of drifting off to sleep. 365 chapters, opportunities we got to experience. 365 times we opened our eyes and said YES (sometimes more or less enthusiastically) to whatever the...
When dieting is the only strategy to “fix” your life…
When dieting is the only thing you know that you know that you know will heal your broken heart... When dieting is the only way out of your current life your pain your fear your guilt and shame... When dieting is the end-all-be-all plan to make your dreams come...
I need to watch what I eat
This is probably the biggest limiting diet belief there is. "I need to watch what I eat." This belief will always come back to bite you in the butt and it'll keep you in diet prison for the rest of your life. "I need to watch what I eat" leads to binges, which leads...
15 Limiting Beliefs About Dieting You Need to Let Go Of Today
One of the hardest things about breaking free from dieting and body obsession is letting go of the limiting beliefs about dieting that you’ve carried for years. These thoughts are powerful—shaped by diet culture, fear, and shame—and they’ve likely influenced every...
Our Cult-Like Diet Culture
I've been reading a lot about cults lately and I'm coming more and more to the understanding that our way of looking at weight = health is cult-like. There's a clear mission to keep the truth about the relation of weight and health from the "general public" and the...
Words That’ll Help You Through The Tough Days
I love you. I'm sorry. Please forgive me. Thank you. I love you. I'm sorry. Please forgive me. Thank you. These 4 sentences have been words that have helped me through so many difficult experiences of my life. They've supported me in my divorce, in raising my son, in...