There’s a trap many women fall into—a way of living I call the “used to have body” life.
It’s a life built on regret. You constantly look back at a body you used to have—a smaller, “prettier” version—and convince yourself it was better. Every morning, you look in the mirror hoping to see that body. Every day, you’re disappointed when you don’t.
And so, you keep living in the past.
But here’s the thing: clinging to your old body robs you of the life you have right now. It prevents you from accepting your body now, the one that has carried you through all of your experiences.
What Does It Mean to Live a “Used to Have Body” Life?
When you live like this, your body becomes a project. You start treating it like something to be fixed, judged, and criticized relentlessly. The injustice in this?
- Your body is not something to be sculpted to fit someone else’s ideal.
- YOU are not something to be measured, graded, or reduced to a number.
But living in this mindset, you forget that. Instead, you hold onto the idea that smaller is better, while ignoring everything your current body has done for you.
Your Body Has a Story Worth Celebrating
Let’s be honest: the body you have now may not be the body you had at 20. But that doesn’t mean it’s “less than.” Your body tells a story—it’s lived, grown, and carried you through life’s ups and downs.
And here’s something no one talks about:
Bodies naturally change.
As we age, weight gain happens. Even if we eat less, even if we exercise more, our bodies shift. It’s biology, not failure.
Yet, society tells us otherwise. It convinces us to fight an impossible battle, one we weren’t meant to win.
Why Is Accepting Your Body Now So Hard?
If you’re struggling with accepting your body now, it’s worth asking yourself some tough questions:
- What does holding onto the past give you?
- Are you afraid of aging, of life changing, or of facing a deeper pain?
- Do you believe your happiness depends on shrinking your body?
The truth is, shrinking your body won’t fix what’s really going on. It’s easier to fight your reflection than to face the feelings you’ve buried, isn’t it?
But you deserve better than that.
What If You Accepted Your Body Right Now?
Imagine this:
- You look in the mirror and see a body that deserves kindness.
- You stop chasing the “better body” and start living fully in this one.
- You no longer waste your time obsessing over a past that no longer exists.
- Accepting your body now doesn’t mean you’re giving up. It means you’re showing up. It means choosing peace over war. It means being present for your life instead of holding yourself back.
Your Body Is Enough—Right Now
Your body has grown, changed, and evolved. That’s not a sign of failure. It’s a sign of life.
When you live a “used to have body” life, you miss out on everything your current body has to offer. The laughter. The adventures. The love. It’s all still there—waiting for you to show up.
Are You Ready to Stop Living in the Past?
I know it’s hard to let go of the fight. I know it feels uncomfortable to stop chasing that “better body.” But what if this discomfort is where freedom begins?
It’s time to start accepting your body now—not later, not when the scale says so, but right now.
Let’s talk about it. I’m here to help you take the first step.
Schedule your call today, and let’s find a new way together.
