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One of the biggest grievances I have regarding us women is that we don’t accept the work we need to do in this world at this time.

We don’t see that we’re the biggest obstacles in our own way of finding body image freedom and joy in food.

You see…

It’s us who invented the thigh gaps.

It’s us who criticise other girls, whisper about their fat thighs, their cellulite or how they should definitely cut the carbs.

It’s us who follow the fitspo superstars on Instagram and Pinterest.

It’s us who buy the magazines.

It’s us who purchase the weight loss programs over and over and over again.

It’s not the men, it’s not the beauty industry, it’s US.

We do not accept that there’s some major work to be done and we certainly don’t accept that it’s up to us to change the way all women think about beauty and body.

We simply do not accept our responsibility.

I often hear women complain about the tips that I share and how they don’t work. However, after probing a bit, I always (100% of the time!) find that the women simply never cared to actually practice what they read. They just thought that by skimming a blog post or sharing a cool graphic, they’d eventually, magically love their body and accept their natural weight.

Well, that’s not the case.

There is some work to be done before you can 100% trust your body.

There is some work to be done to get to the place of true body love.

There is some work to be done to wake up in the morning without worrying about the calories you consumed yesterday and will consume today.

There is some work to be done.

And the work does not involve going on another diet.

Let’s be honest:

Have you really tried everything that you can to accept your body and your natural weight?

Have you really thrown away your scale, begun to journal about your fears, done the exercises in the various books you’ve bought, looked yourself in the eyes with love or any of the hundreds other tools you can try before you give in and go on the next magic weight loss program?

Have you? 

Because I don’t think so.

It’s really sad how we as women would rather suffer and work our butts off on diets and exercise regimes that are inhumane than do the real work, the work that actually will heal the wounds we try to patch up by losing or gaining weight.

So, notice how I’m not saying you’re lazy or have no willpower, all I’m saying is that you put your efforts, your time and energy in the wrong place. Instead of chipping away at your soul, build on it, listen to it, dance with it. {Click to Tweet}

Instead of being miserable because all you allow yourself to eat is a salad leaf at night, go out, have fun, and change this world.

I don’t want my children to grow up in a world where 60-80 % of women dislike or even hate their body. I don’t want them to hear all the despicable things women say to themselves. I don’t want them to see the diminishing ads or know the agony of dieting all the time.

I want them to know what real joy and love for life looks like. I want them to find pleasure in food – all kinds of food. I want them to realize that life is way more than the way their body looks.

I am sure you want the same for your kids, right?

Then it’s up to you too. It’s up to all of us to start a movement that will change the destiny of this planet. {Click to Tweet}

It’s up to you to begin doing your individual work and instead of complaining, gossiping, nay-saying, use the resources you’ve been given, sit down, write, throw the scale away, drop into your body, listen to your emotions and stop the nonsense once and for all.

We as women need to heal each other, love each other, be there for each other. We as women need to stop hurting this world.

We as women must take action.

It’s time.