If you’ve been free from dieting for a while and have “mastered” the “normal” way of eating, the next challenge is learning to wholeheartedly accept your body.
Sure, this process of letting go of the need to restrict and coming back home to your body often happens simultaneously, but it also often does not.
Often times, eating what you want when you want without fear, shame and guilt happens long before totally accepting your shape in a fully embodied way.
This isn’t surprising as the biggest fear of dieters is weight gain when learning to eat intuitively and then liking their body even less than they do now.
Well, the thing is that healing your relationship with your body doesn’t necessarily depend on you liking your body.
Jess Baker often talks about it being more about liberating your body.
I love that term: liberating; setting yourself free from the oppression of the beauty and weight loss companies, as well as the still omnipresent patriarchy.
Yes, it’s super important to take a stand for your body and allowing her to be whatever she needs to be without judging her every second of the day.
It’s crucial to set yourself free from the fetishized shape of what women’s bodies are supposed to look like and focus on showing up the way you actually want to present yourself.
It’s super powerful to say “screw it” and just LIVE your absolute BEST life – despite not having the body you WISH you’d have.
And yet…
Oftentimes it’s not enough.
Oftentimes, clients come to me saying they don’t just want to intellectualize themselves into not judging, but they actually want to live the truth of not being critical of their body every time they look in the mirror.
They want the feeling of inferiority they still feel when buying bigger clothes or seeing their body in a picture to truly vanish.
They want to stop the automatic process of thinking that this isn’t who they truly are.
Remember the phrase that went something like “there’s a skinny person inside every body?”
This sentence is what they want to be gone, poof, totally out of their minds.
How about you?
What do you truly want?
When you’re at this place and you’ve begun to embody your body and have focused on your body’s skills versus your body’s looks, but the remnants of shame are still lingering in your heart, you need to go deeper.
Like, waaaaayyy deeper.
This is where the work in your unconscious begins.
You’ll always feel that pang in the pit of your stomach when seeing yourself if your self-image is based on the current beauty ideal or on some ghost that others have told you you needed to be.
Until you can carve out the belief/the truth/the knowing that your body needs to be different, that your true Self is different, you’ll never wholeheartedly accept what is there.
So how do you change that internal picture? How do you bring your heart onboard?
You allow yourself to be guided. This deep internal work – as of my understanding and experience – can’t be done alone. There are ways to totally free yourself from the representations in your mind, the feelings in your heart and the stored emotions in your body.
There are tools enabling you to eliminate the pain and frustration that comes with never having felt like your body belonged to you, like you belonged to yourself.
And that work goes beyond dropping into your body or being grateful for your body’s many capabilities.
This work needs to go beyond the conscious into the unconscious where your memories are being stored.
The unconscious is where associations are being linked, memories with unresolved negative emotions are being repressed and can be presented again. It is the domain of your emotions and may keep the repressed emotions for your protection for a long time. The unconscious mind is the only place that can actually free you from ALL of your limiting decisions and negative emotions – those linked to your continuous pain around your weight and shape.
Yes, next level body love is about standing up for your body and constantly questioning the bias and the insanity of our beauty ideals, but it’s also about so much more.
It’s about liberating old stories and freeing no longer needed memories in order to make space for a new, truer image of yourself.
You can decide to like your body, but you can’t fool your emotions, you have to heal them, release them, and make sure your unconscious is part of the work.
Ready? Take the leap of faith and book your coaching package with me now.
It’s time to stop standing in your own way.
You have what it takes to heal wholeheartedly.
You have what it takes to accept your body in her current shape.
I see it in your eyes.
I see it in your heart.
I see it in your every move and every word.
You are the one you were always meant to be –
just covered by fear and shame –
and the wrong belief that changing your body will instantly ease all your pain and allow you to create a life of rainbows and unicorns.
It’s time to leave that behind.
It’s time to unleash the superwoman that’s inside.
Not overnight.
But by strategically going through the steps to allowing your core to shine.
I’m here to help. <3
